“Want to be happy? Stop trying to be perfect.”
- Dr Brene Brown
Ah Brene Brown – the poster girl for “F**k it! Go live your best life!” There isn’t a book of hers I haven’t devoured or talk of hers I haven’t cried through.
The Texan researcher and storyteller doesn’t just offer meaningless soundbites and platitudes. Every piece of her advice is backed up by extensive studies and research and that’s why we love her.
So if you need a bit of cheering up or a little feel-good guidance, here are five of Brene’s best quotes on creating happiness in your life. Take it away Brene!
1. Try to be your authentic self
“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”
2. Don’t let your shame hold you back and be careful who you share it with
“Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It’s the fear that we’re not good enough. If we share our shame story with the wrong person, they can easily become one more piece of flying debris in an already dangerous storm.”
3. Fear can keep you from joy
“Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy — the experiences that make us the most vulnerable.”
4. Perfectionism is the path to disappointment
“Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction and life paralysis.”
5. Stop caring what other people think
“Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it’s a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands.”
Want more Brene? Here’s her inspiring TED Talk on the power vulnerability which started the Brene juggernaut!